This is a ridiculous premise and framing that is a cry for attention (which I guess you got). Jesse, if any of this were true, you would only be able to design for other Jesse Weavers (and no one else). Don't presume to understand other white men's lived experiences, either. No one group has a claim to empathy or emotional intelligence over any other group—it's not a characteristic of any gender, race, sexuality, nationality, etc. You're doing a tremendous disservice to design.